Self proclaimed self care journey

Hey friends it’s Molly just wanted to share some thoughts.

Olive May is 8 months old today (what the heck)!?! I seriously can’t believe it. Every month I think the same thing like “where in the world does the time go”! Olive was literally a baby baby for like two seconds😩 And now we are here forever inching closer to one year with our babe. But for now we are trying to soak it all in. All the changes and all the victories. It’s pretty amazing how fast a baby can learn how to do things.

So a few weeks ago I had been feeling like I was beginning to get stuck on this ever moving hamster wheel (you know what I mean). Being a mama is no joke. Don’t get me wrong… the good days definitely out weigh the bad ones and I wouldn’t change a thing. Buttt real talk, I was starting to feel a bit depleted. I hadn’t really done anything for me in a longggg time. And that’s when I started to think about self care and what that might look like as a new mama. When I say self care I don’t mean having a glass of wine at the end of the day (although some days that is the most wonderful thing in the world), I mean actually self care as in taking care of your self. I started to think of things that would improve my life make me a better me. Because I know taking time for me will not only help myself but my family and in the end will make me a better wife and mama. I made a mental list. At the top was working out. So I knew I needed to make working out a priority. Second was skin care. I’ve never been one to be in to skin care products but wanted to dip my toes in (Ps my skin has totally changed since having a baby). As I started to think about this “self care” stuff I started to feel guilty. Feeling like I don’t neeeed to do this stuff but only want too. Then Ethan reminded me, I give, give, give allll day and I totally deserve a little me time. Time to collect my thoughts, time to myself, time to think and just plain ole’ time. It sounds so simple but it’s hard. It’s really hard…at least for me. So this is me figuring out what all that will look like. I’ll be starting on my self, self proclaimed self care journey.

I’ve started working out. It’s a start. Nothing fancy but it’s a start.

I also went to lush (walked in and had no idea what I wanted or where to start, luckily the people that work there are amazing) and they got me all set up with all natural yummy skin care goodies for my face (yay!).

A few reminders to myself and to you too:

You deserve time, time to rest, time to be. No matter if it’s for an hour or 5 min. You deserve it.

Cheers to growing, strengthening, being whole. Cheers to all the moms, dads and guardians out there.

Also something I’m learning is to really breath, like deep breaths breathing. Like filling up your lungs breathing. Try it out it because it really works!

Thanks for reading my rambling thoughts anddd if you have any self care wisdom send it my wayyy!

From our tribe to yours,

Molly, Ethan & Olive

 

Choose Joy.

 

 

Have you ever been fearful of something? Fear of starting a new job because of all the ‘what ifs’ (which I, Ethan actually just did!)? Fear of trying something new? Fear that you might burn the rolls you are trying to make with dinner (umm yeah… right here because well…we forget they are even in the oven haha.)? We have ALL experienced fear on some level (big, small and in between) in our lives. But the real challenge is understanding the impact that fear plays in your life, and how YOU can actually control it. Wild stuff, right?

 

Fear is the thief of joy. And we all want joy in our lives But no matter how hard we try sometimes the fear to do something finds it’s way back in to our minds. Which honestly is just a huge bummer. Does anybody else feel that way? But I (Ethan) wanted to share how fear is only as big as we make it! It is this mental block to keeps us from achieving our very best in life, that doesn’t have to even be there when you choose joy or just enjoy where your life is taking you!

 

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As a tribe, we face the fear that we won’t raise Olive to have the childhood that we absolutely want to give her. We consistently face the fact that we may not be able to travel or experience things that we think she would love, and would help shape her into her true self. And that fear is incredibly hard to subside. Especially on a daily basis. But, we have the daily choice to not let that fear stand in the way of life. That type of fear is so detrimental to living a fulfilling life. A life that enables us to chase our dreams as a tribe. Just because there is that looming fear of not being able to take Olive to new places all the time, we decide to do our best, and make the most of the places we are able to take her, like the beach! This thought process can apply to anything and everything in life, not just raising a little one. Are you afraid of applying for that program at school? What’s the worst that could happen? Are you able to live a more fulfilling life when you push past the fear and the risk? Then GO FOR IT!

 

At the end of the day, it is important to boil fear down to it’s base. We always ask ourselves… What is the TRUE cause of this fear we are feeling? What is the absolute true cause? And that answer varies all the time. Most of the time, it is the fear of the unknown, which I think is a main driver for a lot of the fear that people experience. Just because something is unknown, it doesn’t mean you can’t conquer it. If you never apply for that new job, then you will never know where it could have lead you in life. You’ll never know what could have been… you’ll never understand the unknown. Most of the time, the risk in our heads seems so huge, but when you ask yourself the above question, and figure out what the risk associated with the fear is, it’s actually super small! Whether applying for a job, networking, asking someone for something, whatever it may be, the motto I live by is… “The worst thing that could happen is they say no.” And, I mean, how true is that?? Someone says no, and you move on. Life continues. And you are actually a little bit better at taking on fear. 🙂

 

Fear is this nasty little guy that can run amuck in our lives if we let him, but can also sit still in the corner while we take on our life, achieving our dreams and making big moves! Our tribe motto for the year is “Choose Joy”. Think about that for a second. Fear is the thief of joy. So… Choose Joy.

 

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Go out there this week and kick fear in the butt! Tell it to move over while you try something new, make new relationships, and chase your dreams. Share a story of when you had to deal with fear in the comments below! Supporting each other and understanding our individual stories are such a key part to choosing joy on a daily basis, so we are here to talk with you, friends. Plus, we love sharing stories. Just sayin.

 

From our tribe to yours,

Ethan, Molly and Olive

 

The Magic of Disneyland!

Let us start out by saying we love Disneyland. Well, we don’t necessarily love Disneyland, we absolutely adore it. It runs in our blood. We LIVE for Disneyland. Okay, was that too far…? Nope, sounds about right. You get the gist. Before Olive May was around, we took our Senior Trip in High School there, Ethan proposed to Molly there, we took our Honeymoon there, and took a bunch of trips to the park in between. Again, you get the idea. We are kind of Disneyland people. When we found out we were pregnant with Olive, we knew it wouldn’t slow us down at all. She was going to be one lucky kid and come along for the ride!

 

Well this Christmas was the time for our first trip! It was finally time to visit the most magical place on earth (and at the most magical time of year, no less) as a whole tribe (along with one of Ethan’s little brothers and Molly’s mom!). We had only been once before during Christmas when Ethan proposed to me, and it was one of the best trips we have taken. So we were just a litttttle excited for this trip to come around. Olive obviously had no clue what it meant to get on a plane and head to Disneyland being only 6 months old, but I could see she was excited just like us. She had that little twinkle in her eye. With this blog post, we wanted to give you our top 5 tips for conquering Disneyland (and Disney California Adventure) with a little. Things that helped us, that we hope can also help you! 🙂

 

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Tip #1: Expectations.

Manage them. Own them. Keep em’ real. We have found that throughout our many years of heading to the park (with this trip at the top of the list), it is SO important to manage your expectations. Now, this doesn’t mean you need to lower them in order to enjoy your time at the park, but we have found that when you manage your expectations, nobody is let down, and magic tends to happen 😉 An awesome Disneyland podcast that shares this same mantra is Mousetalgia. I LOVE this podcast, and they can’t speak highly enough of this tip.

 

Tip #2: Slow it dowwwwwn.

With little’s, you obviously won’t be able to conquer the entire park and hop on attractions all day long. It is OKAY and ENCOURAGED to take it slow. Breaks are good. Just because you aren’t running around like mad doesn’t mean you aren’t getting your money’s worth out of the park. In fact, if you take a break and take it slow for a second, you’ll find little quirks to the park that you may have never noticed before, and that in itself is magic. There are actually places all throughout the resort that are great for taking a quick break, such as (and definitely not limited too):

– Watching Mickey & The Magical Map.

– Watching a show at Fantasy Faire Theatre.

– Listening to the Dapper Dans on Main Street.

– Animation Academy in DCA (fun, interactive, and air conditioned. Wooo!).

 

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The Dapper Dans in their festive Holiday attire!

 

Tip #3: Baby Center in both parks. Use them!

If your little is like Olive at all, she gets so distracted trying to stare at everything (and I mean everythinggggg) while she needs to eat. That is where the Baby Center is an absolute life saver. It includes a nursing room, changing room, feeding area with highchairs (kitchen with microwave and sink), a vending machine with baby essentials for purchase (who hasn’t ran out of wipes before??), and a TV playing classic Disney movies to entertain your little, and yourself 🙂 The one in Disneyland is located at the end of Main Street, directly adjacent is the First Aid building and the Little Red Wagon. The one in DCA (Disney California Adventure) is right next to Ghirardelli and across from Cars Land. In short, the Baby Center is pure gold.

 

Tip #4: Know what rides you can go on with your little.

Just because you have a little, doesn’t mean everything is off limits. In fact, you can still do a ton of stuff. Because Olive was only 6 months old, we needed to understand what attractions had no height requirement that she would be good to go on. Magic Kingdom Mamas have this AMAZING list of attractions that have no height requirement in the park. It was a life saver for us! If you haven’t heard of MKM, give them a follow on Instagram and check out their blog posts. They are just absolutely THE BEST 🙂 Being able to go on an attractions as a whole tribe was really quite magical, so be sure to know what you can do before you go.

 

Tip #5: Live a little. Treat Yo’ Self. Throw caution to the wind. Splurge it up.

It never hurts to live a little while visiting the Happiest Place on Earth. Whether that is treating yourself to a special snack such as a churro, or going all out by reserving an awesome dining/show package, it’s important to enjoy yourself. It is super easy to get caught up in the fact that you want everything to go a certain way and be just so, when in fact, the most memorable and magical times happen when you live in the moment and enjoy yourself. Ethan always (and I mean always) gets a souvenir sipper as his treat, and it has kind of turned into a tradition. It is an inexpensive souvenir to bring home that is actually fun to use at home! Above all, enjoy the time you are spending in the park and don’t be afraid to live it up a little. It isn’t called the Happiest Place on Earth for no reason.

 

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There you have it! Our top 5 tips for tackling the Disneyland Resort with a little (and as a tribe!). Let us know what some of your tips are, and if you end up using any of ours. We always love talking Disney, so drop a trip report or just your favorite Disney memory in the comments below and let’s chat 🙂

 

From our tribe to yours,

 

Ethan, Molly & Olive May

 

2019 and beyond…

Hey friends! It’s so good to be back! We have been busy, busy, busy… and we want to tell you all about it 🙂

The holidays always bring an amazing number of events. From checking out the zoo and all of it’s wonderful lights, to enjoying the magic of Disneyland, and spending some quality time with our loved ones, we were always doing something. And guess what? It was SO. MUCH. FUN! Our first holiday season as a tribe was a huge success. It included so many firsts as well and new traditions! Olive’s very first plane ride, our first year of hosting Christmas at our house, and our very first family photos. Woa. It was a BIG holiday season.

 

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Because we haven’t been writing for quite long enough to take part in a classic year end review, we want to share a few things we have been up to since we saw you last, and share with you what 2019 has planned for us (here’s a hint: it’s going to be a FUN year)! With this being Olive’s first Christmas, all focus went to her for the entireeeeee holiday season. She got some just very fun (and noisy…) presents from so many people! Needless to say, her play area is 100% full and she absolutely loves it! She also got to see all of her uncles, cousins, and grandparents. It was so great! Safe to say her first christmas was a success. I’m sure she would agree.

 

 

Are you ready for 2019? Because guess what?? It’s here! And we are so ready! 2019 is going to be such an important year for our tribe! We have some amazing things planned like traveling to New York, following our dream, and getting to know you guys better! We absolutely cannot wait to enjoy every second of it. What does that mean for the blog? Well, it’s coming at you bigger and better! Upcoming blogs include a trip report from our magical time in Disneyland, tackling the holidays with little ones, and how to set goals for yourself (and your tribe!). We will be posting a new blog every other Wednesday, and living on our Instagram account to keep up to date with you guys (you can hit the follow button right here).

 

What are some things you want to see from us in 2019? What do you want us to write about? What would be beneficial for you guys? At the end of the day, we want to connect with you and positively impact you and your tribe. Get ready for 2019, because it is about to be one heck of a year! 🙂

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from our tribe to yours,

 

Ethan, Molly & Olive